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Taking MOTIVATED COUPLES

from STRUGGLING to THRIVING

and BEYOND

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STRUGGLING with

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Ugly fights

distance

Distance

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Injuries or Betrayals

You knew when you got together you should be better than these struggles.
It's just not right.

You should feel safer, closer, thriving, happy.

You're in the place

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I have the tools and expertise to help you move forward together.

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I want you to have the relationship of your dreams, not just rise from the struggle.

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I want to help you on the path forward. Let me share this with you at home, as I have with so many couples in my therapy office.

I am dedicated to taking you

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of Conflicts, Distance, Damage

Are you stuck, and feeling overwhelmed with the way your struggles seem to have overtaken your relationship?

You're thinking this is not the relationship you bargained for, and you might be worried you won't even make it.

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You want to

You want the relief, peace, calm, and happiness of those good times — when your energy is no longer drained by relationship challenges. You can talk things through and move forward.

Once it feels good again being together, and you're feeling like a team, you can regroup, feel safe together, and begin to look beyond just thriving, building big goals and dreams together.

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What is possible

Your Ideal Great...

That couple you know and admire... they've got each other's backs. . they're out there serving their family, their community, their cause, their higher purpose, their world. They return home to each other to recharge and re-energize.

What is your ideal great? Let's get to work bringing it to life!

I want the two of you to have the tools at the ready to get through the struggle to a place of calm and connection... so you can go on to dream, build, and soar together.

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I can help you move forward from struggling to thriving and beyond, in just a few steps:

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Order my FREE video series and watch it together.
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Practice the steps as a team, supporting each other.

SET TIME ASIDE
with your partner to discuss, process, and use what you learn.

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As a motivated couple you are ready to take on the challenge of finding the time to work together, and setting it aside consistently.

Watch & Read Articles together here.
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Deepen your understanding and broaden your skills together.

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1 CAN HELP YOU MOVE FORWARD FROM STRUGGLING TO THRIVING AND BEYOND, IN JUST A FEW STEPS:

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Order my FREE e-book and go through it together.
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Practice the steps as a team, supporting each other.

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SET TIME ASIDE
with your partner to discuss, process, and use what you learn.

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As a motivated couple you are ready to take on the challenge of finding the time to work together, and setting it aside consistently.

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Watch & Read Articles together here.
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Deepen your understanding and broaden your skills together.

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How to Talk About Health Concerns

How To Talk About Health Concerns

When you or a loved one is having a serious health concern or crisis, in the stress and the demands of the health problem sometimes you and your partner end up feeling like you’re not on the same team.  This is a time when you really want to be able to come together to support each other. In this video I’m sharing some ideas about how you and your partner can talk together so you feel closer, more connected, and on the same team.

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Stop Fighting

How to Stop Fighting with Your Partner

Remember the last time you had a really good conversation with your partner, how wonderful and safe it felt?

Now, remember a time where the conversation turned into a conflict, where the train had left the station and there was no coming back. We’ve all been there in our relationships, and it’s not fun. In fact, when you’re in the thick of a really bad fight, it can feel like the world is ending.

There’s that moment before a fight when everything shifts. There’s that moment where you shift from calm communication to conflict. You can feel the difference in your body. Remember how it feels when you feel the shift in that moment?

But this good news is, there are other moments when you can choose to shift again. But it’s hard to do when you’re angry, hurt, and upset. The best thing to do in that moment is to get some distance so you can come back to a calmer mind and a more balanced perspective.

Here’s a quick tip for the next time you get in a fight or even feel that shift from communication to conflict.

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Making Time For Your Partner

The Secret to Keeping Your Relationship Alive

Would you say that your partner is the most important person in your life besides maybe your own self and your kids?

Would you say that they are your highest priority, but the amount of time that you actually spend with them tells a different story?

There is simply no substitute for spending time with your partner. You partner is not a houseplant that you can just check on every once in a while, to keep them thriving. Your relationship is something you need to lovingly tend to every day by spending quality time with your partner. That’s what a relationship is really all about!

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Reconnect with Your Partner

A Simple Way to Reconnect with Your Partner

When we’re in a rough patch in our relationship, it’s easy to forget why we ever got together in the first place. We might wonder how we got to where we are now and what we ever saw in our partner. We know we loved them at one point, and maybe we still do, but even looking at them now makes you mad, sad, or afraid.  This is how we lose touch with the love and joy we felt in the beginning. We rarely take the time to actually remember the beginning. 

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Having Productive Conversations With Your Partner

The First Step to Talking With Your Partner

I’ve talked with hundreds, maybe thousands of couples in the past 30 years of my career, and one issue I hear all the time is that the two partners just can’t have a productive conversation about a relationship issue.You might be nodding your head right now, because this happens at some point in almost every relationship, especially if there’s another painful issue going on that a couple doesn’t want to talk about, even though they know they need to. Today I’m going to teach you the one foundational step that you, your partner, and every couple have to take in order to have a safe talk about any relationship issue.

But first, let’s see what happens when you skip this step.

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A Dangerous Relationship Myth

The Myth That’s Ruining Your Relationship

In my years of counseling couples, I’ve noticed a dangerous myth that almost everyone believes about relationships, and it’s no wonder because we learn this belief from a very young age. We see it in romcoms and novels, we see it on TV, but it’s not the way real relationships with real people work.You probably believe this myth too, and it might be causing issues in your relationship and fostering resentment and anger without you even knowing it! The problem isn’t your partner, and it’s not even YOU per se. The problem is a false belief that you can actually unlearn.So let’s talk about that, shall we?

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Sharing your Life Dreams

When you want to share a precious life dream with your partner…Your fear is feeling really vulnerable and exposed when you’re not sure they’ll be supportive. Your hope is that they will see, hear, and understand your dream, and back you up. It is possible to talk with your partner about your dreams in a way that helps your hope to happen. Veronica and Martin’s story, below, brings this to life.

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Sarah offers her special blend of sincere empathy and common sense guidance from a place of compassion borne of many years of professional and life experience. With her gentle inquiries and intelligent suggestions she's helped me figure out for myself what I'm needing. Sarah communicates with warmth and genuine caring and with her often playful humor I come away feeling empowered and ready to be my best self.

 

-Susannah Johnston
Community Organizer & Yoga Instructor

Sarah has become one of my most trusted advisors and confidants. She speaks with a directness and a clarity that is both compassionate and truthful. It's refreshing. Sarah has been a rock of sound advice. My own insights are reflected back towards me so I am able to both see and access my own innate wisdom. Her capacity for unlocking my own answers within myself is uncanny.

 

-Morgan Smith
Lifelong Educator

Sarah has become an extraordinary mentor in my life. I consider her a confidant, and she gives welcomed advice on the complexities that are marriage/relationships, childrearing, and complete health in mind and body whenever I need help. Sarah is a one of a kind human being. My life has been enriched having known her all of these years, I look forward to the future and would encourage anyone to seek her out for help in any mind, body or health issue someone may be having.

-Katie Kahumoku
Pilates Instuctor, Owner: The Workshop

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Communicate and Feel Better.

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