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You'll Cultivate Loving, Clear,

In Your Relationship

The unique, new Connection Spark Method is the single best, most effective way to rekindle lasting intimacy and closeness...
without couples therapy.

Yes! It's true...

 

There's a new and different way to finally have the clear, loving communication you want in your relationship, so you and your partner can create the lasting closeness and intimate connection you always wished you had.

 

It's called The Connection Spark Method.

 

This is different from the books, workshops, and advice you're likely familiar with because not only will you learn to give each other what you need to feel loved and cherished, you'll continue to build closeness, romance, and understanding over time.

 

How?

⇒ By rewiring your brain to feel safe communicating together
⇒ Build in new, effective automatic habits
⇒ You'll
actually use the proven communication tools you'll learn, so
⇒ You'll keep growing closer and more connected over time.

Imagine feeling

  • Excited and happy to see each other again
  • Communicating calmly and effectively without wasting days or weeks with unspoken needs and painful misunderstandings
  • Finally dreaming together about your future with joy

 

Best of all, you don't have to go through the thousands of dollars of expense of going to couples therapy, or watch another year pass with growing distance, disconnection, and disappointment.

 

So if you want clear, loving, effective communication to create the long-term kindness and intimacy you've been aching for in your relationship, read on, and be sure to schedule a time to talk with me right away to see how this can help you and your partner.

Dr Sarah Rattray, PHD

Hi, I'm Dr. Sarah Rattray

When you're ready to invest in your relationship, you want a guide you can count on and trust

My background and training are your asset

You need a highly specialized expert, one who has the most current and proven training, the professional- and life-experience, and the passion and heart to help couples create deep, life-altering change.

  • Ph.D., 1988, in Clinical Psychology
  • In the original group of therapists personally trained by renowned pioneers Drs. John and Julie Gottman, 1998-2000
  • Certified Gottman Therapist, 2000 - longest active certified therapist in the world
  • Thousands of hours of successful therapy with real couples in my private practice 
  • Functional Diagnostic Nutrition Practitioner, 2012
  • Additional training in Integrative Medicine for Mental Health, Neuropsychology, Holistic Health Optimization, Nutritional Psychology, Emotionally Focused Therapy

Everything I know about relationships, health, and neuroscience combine to bring you the unique new way to make the shifts you've been wanting, so that you can turn your relationship around. 

You've finally found the best Expert Couples Psychologist to help you on your journey

Three decades of compassionate experience

You can feel confident in my ability to help you and your partner in your unique relationship, as I have success working with hundreds of couples with many different:

  • Backgrounds
  • Cultures
  • Beliefs
  • Values
  • Ages
  • Genders
  • Family Structures
  • Religions

I've learned what makes the difference between those who make lasting changes and those who don't. I will help you and your partner so that you can be one of those couples who looks at each other with smiles of pleasure and accomplishment, knowing you have succeeded at creating the level of intimacy, romance, and connection you always wanted.

Ready to Rekindle Your Relationship?

Schedule your FREE no-obligation 20 minute consultation with Dr. Sarah.
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For all of you who Never thought it would be like this

Distant and disconnected after focusing on raising your children

Feeling like you've become strangers in the same house

Overwhelmed by not knowing how to turn things around

Feeling lonely after working hard side by side for years

Not knowing how to talk about important concerns

Wondering what you're going to argue about next

Dreading every conversation getting out of control

 

I created The Connection Spark Method...

This brings together all my experience and passion for working with couples, and I can't wait to share it with you...
Read on to see how this unique new method will help
You and your partner rekindle your relationship

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Here's what you need to know about

For Your Relationship

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Just learning communication tools alone is not enough

Your brain is the key to lasting change

If you've read books, gone to workshops, or gone to therapy, and it feels like nothing worked, nothing lasted... it's not your fault. YES, learning terrific, effective communication tools is essential - BUT - your brain has wired itself to protect you from hurt, pain, disappointment... any kind of discomfort.

In client after client, couple after couple, I've observed the pattern that has developed over time: to expect to be hurt or disappointed, and to act by default to protect against that expected hurt. By creating safety inside clients and couples, I've seen the pattern change so safety creates success and grows into an expectation of more success.

The Connection Spark Method teaches you to rewire your brain's automatic default "fight-or-flight" response, and create the safety and trust in your partner that lets those tools flow, so that you can come together and communicate with kindness and clarity about every facet of your relationship you want to create together. When you feel safe and actually talk together, you grow and stay closer, and you light up with pleasure and happiness every time you see each other.

Start to feel closer and hopeful right away

Make lasting changes in just eight weeks

An almost inescapable force that usually stops new habits before they start is your brain's default pattern of continuing to respond to life the way you always have. And if your lives are as busy and full as most couples, you've grown used to responding to the urgent needs and small crises of the moment, and have been consumed by your schedule.

Although you know that your relationship is more important than almost anything else in your life, your relationship and your partner have taken a back seat to your habit of responding to the latest urgent issue.

The Connection Spark Method teaches you how to interrupt the tyranny of the "Urgent," and use your brain's response to the Urgent to your advantage.

Research in the European Journal of Social Psychology shows that with repetition, on average it takes about 66 days for a new habit to become automatic. 

Create new mental pathways and strengthen them into new habits over several weeks, so that you begin to see changes right away, significant shifts in your communication, and a deeper and more profound understanding of each other. This will only build and grow over time.

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It doesn't have to be this way

Change is possible - it's not too late

Renowned relationship researcher Dr. John Gottman can watch couples interact, and quickly predict whether they will succeed or fail in their relationship... if they do nothing to change how they treat each other. Dr. Gottman's predictive research and ability gets a lot of press, but most reports fail to mention that his prediction holds only for those couples who don't try to change.

In my thirty years of working with couples, while I am skilled at spotting the differences Dr. Gottman discovered, since those couples were in my office to change, I didn't find I could tell who would succeed or fail based on that measure alone (spoiler: it's "contempt").

Instead, I have found the biggest single difference between couples who succeed at changing and growing closer, and those who continue on the disappointing path that brought them to me:

If you are both motivated to change, to grow, to take responsibility, to work together on your relationship... then change IS possible.

It is not too late. YOU WILL be able to benefit from the unique Connection Spark Method if you are both motivated, so that you can renew your relationship. You'll eliminate old roadblocks, shift away from old painful patterns, see hope instead of heartbreak, and learn to treat each other with the kindness, respect, attention, and warmth you both need and want.

There's a new, powerful way for couples to transform

Couples Therapy is not the only way to go

Don't get me wrong, couples therapy is terrific, I've been helping couples successfully for thirty years. But... couples therapy is very expensive... you have to be willing to talk in front of someone else... you have to find a very good therapist... and good therapists are often full.

According to the Doherty Relationship Institute, one of the biggest barriers to success is "Commitment Ambivalence," where one or both members of the relationship aren't sure they are committed to the relationship and want to work on it. 

If you are both committed to your relationship and are motivated to work together, stop losing time and take action right away. By using the Connection Spark Method you'll learn the research-proven communication and relationship tools you would learn in therapy but from the comfort of your own home, without having to go to a therapist's office. You'll save time and money, and don't have to wait any longer searching for help.

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Be one of the couples who have a successful, lasting relationship with The Connection Spark Method...

Introducing the only place in the world
You and your partner can learn

The Connection Spark Method...

Limited to TEN motivated couples,
Here is the inaugural "Beta" launch of
The new online program for couples:

Relationship Mastery:

The Way You Always Wished It Could Be

Check Out the Powerful Tools Included in the Groundbreaking Relationship Mastery Program

Main Weekly Learning Modules

The Connection Spark Sessions

  • Eight weekly online live calls for you and your partner to rekindle your connection and learn essential relationship skills
  • Learn about
    • Friendship, Intimacy, and Connection
    • Effective, calm communication
    • How to stop fighting
    • Evolution and physiology of fighting and of connection
    • Motivation and clarity about your dreams
    • Small habit changes for big impact
    • Lifestyle factors
    • Thriving and Beyond
Weekly Plan Handouts

Connection Spark Session Plans

  • Weekly handouts with clear, helpful, brief plans for you to focus on for your greatest success
Skills Handouts

Essential Skills Handouts and Guides

  • Each core communication and relationship skill will be taught in the Sessions, and will have its own Handout or Guide for you to refer to any time you want.
Customized by YOU

Your Unique Connection Spark Road Map

  • Each week you and your partner will identify the unique sparks that particularly connect the two of you. At the end of the eight weeks you’ll have a Road Map to guide and remind you of what is meaningful and powerful for you to follow through on over time.
Q&A Calls

Connection Spark Implementation Calls

  • Have your questions answered about putting everything into practice that you’ve learned so far
Community Support

Relationship Mastery Couples Community

  • An online community meeting place with other motivated couples to inspire and support each other as you embrace putting your relationship above all else
  • Dr. Sarah and her team answer questions here within the community outside the Implementation Calls
  • Membership in the Relationship Mastery Couples Community for a full year.
Program Website

Relationship Mastery Home Base

  • Connection Spark Session and Implementation Call recordings available for you to watch together if you missed any of the live sessions or calls, and to return to whenever you want to spark your memory.
  • Videos, audio, and transcripts of every call
  • All handouts located in the Home Base
Full YEAR of Access

Success Reinforcement Access

  • Full access to every round of the Relationship Mastery Program released within the following year. Benefit from each new and revised live round of Connection Spark sessions, Alumni Connection Spark Implementation Calls, as well as access to the replay recordings of every Session and Implementation Call.

Ready to Rekindle Your Relationship?

Schedule your FREE no-obligation 20 minute consultation with Dr. Sarah.
Find out if you're a fit for this unique new program.

I want to be sure this program has EVERYTHING you and your partner need... So These BONUSES Are Included!

Two Step by step video series By-Your-Side SOS Bonuses

Help in the moment of a fight

Stop Fighting SOS Bonus

When you realize you’re fighting or heading into a fight, but can’t remember what to do which is normal, as you’ll learn in Relationship Mastery, this series helps you and your partner one small step at a time to stop escalating, calm down, and know when to try again.

  • Video bonus as if I’m there on your shoulder at home in the moment
  • You don’t have to remember the lessons, this bonus walks you through step by step how to stop fighting, through to talking calmly later
  • Short individual step by step videos
  • Printed guide
Bonus Video
Have a great conversation with extra help

Communication SOS Bonus

When you want help having a great conversation as if I’m right there by your side, this series helps you and partner step by step.

  • As if I’m there on your shoulder at home when you're ready for an important talk
  • You don’t have to remember the lessons, this bonus walks you through step by step how to have a great conversation and stay on track
  • Short individual step by step videos
  • Printed guides
Bonus Video
Second full year of Access

BETA Launch Membership Bonuses

The Spring 2020 round of the Relationship Mastery Program is the “Beta Launch.” After completion of a post-program online and phone survey of your experiences with the beta round, your bonuses as a special thank you for being members of the Beta Launch include:

  • Membership in the Relationship Mastery Couples Community extended to a full two years, rather than the standard one year.
  • Success Reinforcement Access extended to two full years, rather than the standard one year.

The Relationship Mastery Program Featuring the Connection Spark Method

For less than the price of two couples therapy sessions with me...

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Go ahead and enroll...

Risk Free Guarantee

This program is right for motivated couples, who are ready to work together to learn, change patterns, participate, and come together to create the relationship they’ve always wished they could have. 

I’m so confident that this program will work for you - if you work together - that I’m offering a 100% money back guarantee if the program doesn’t feel right to you in the first 14 days. See complete Program Agreement for details.

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